Sunday, September 14, 2008

Shhhhhh. Its a big fucking secret!


I just now realized my husband hasn't told a single member of his family about what is going on! Not his mother, not his father, not his brother....NO ONE. And his friends, the ones that know... wouldn't know if it wasn't for my blog.

Does anyone else find this a bit......odd?

Does your spouses family know?

7 comments:

The Angry IF said...

Yeah, my DH is like that also. He never told them. The only reason my MIL found out was because of "clues" my SILs told her and also I flat out said I had a doctor's appointment on a Sunday. (She's a nurse, so that should be a big clue). DH says nothing about it to his parents, ever.

womb for improvement said...

Yup, same here. But part of the reason for not telling his folk is they are very new age and the minute we do we'll get crystals in the post, reiki healing by proxy and feung shi advice and we aren't ready for that. Yet.

Murgdan said...

Oh. Gosh. I was sworn to secrecy even about TTC long ago for the mere 'fear' that our not conceiving was due to some 'male-factor'....which it ironically is.

He doesn't want anyone to know...I've told a few close friends though.

Even my own family doesn't know.

Stace said...

We had been trying for over a year and a half- a year with the fertility clinic- before telling ANYONE. Neither of us told anyone. It was easier. And we were still so hopeful that things would just "work out". And we really just didn't want the pity... so I can completely understand. As it is, my parents know and his parents know... other than that, only a handful of other people do. Mostly people I had to tell at work... and just a few friends.

I guess everyone deals in their own way. :)

Megs said...

We had originally said we werent going to say anything at all, but I had to tell my mom (I tell her everything). DH said he didnt want anyone to know...then one day at his parents house, he bursted out with the news. I was in total shock and kind of dumbfounded at what else to say. MIL was very understanding and stopped making comments about wishing she could go to baby stores. So yeah...the list keeps getting bigger too. Only a couple of his friends know what we are going through, but most of our immediate familes know.

I feel it's better to get it out so that people dont question why we havent started our family yet. Our answer to that question...We dont want any kids, at least not right now. (Mind you that's for the nosy shits who just want to ask questions). :)

Xbox4NappyRash said...

Barring one person, none of our families know about our TTC.

My family wouldn't really matter, but ET's would be a lot more interfering (well intentioned) and we are not able for that right now.

I wrote before about the problem of telling people about all this, how sometimes you want to shout about it, but other times you need to hide away. Some of the comments were very revealing.

http://xbox4nappyrash.blogspot.com/2008/06/too-much-information.html

Sarah said...

Y'know....the more I think about it, the more I realize its not a big deal to me. I don't really give a shit who does or does not know. Whatever works!